The weekend after the young adults group got back from our trip to Michigan, we all went to a high school football game. Matt sat by me and talked to me the whole time. We honestly had no idea what was going on in the game. I had prayed a lot about this moment so I wasn’t nervous at all being with him. He made me feel calm and comfortable. Later that night he asked me if I wanted to hang out Sunday evening. Of course I said yes!
We planned on an outdoorsy date but it rained so we went to Tim Hortons instead. The first thing he said to me was that he is looking for a wife. He isn’t looking for “fun” or someone to only “temporarily date and then move on”. He wants to date the right person. This probably sounds too straight forward and weird to most people, but to me this was the best thing I could have heard.
I have very low self-esteem and I don’t feel like I am worth that much to others. One of my biggest commitment fears was that the person I loved would one day grow tired of me, get bored of me, etc., and leave me. Matt basically addressed that insecurity head on and said that that is the opposite of what he will do if we date.
He later let me drive his manual car (I had never driven one before). It was scary, yet fun at the same time. He eventually dropped me off and we agreed that we would continue to hang out but wait for a bit to officially date to make sure that it’s what we really want to do.
We went on a few more of these dates, most of them involved visiting a waterfall. We talked about our likes and dislikes, our future goals, how many kids we want, where we want to live…none of our future aspirations conflicted with one another. So, on our fourth date, Matt took me to Mohican, Ohio and asked me to be his girlfriend. Of course I said yes!